Question: I have a crush on a girl who is in the same class at university. We have been in the same class with her for two years and have not spoken a few words, and then I did not add her on WeChat. I want to pursue her but I don’t know whether to date her first or add her to WeChat to chat and confess my love. ...If we chat for so long first, how can our classmates start talking?
When chasing a girl, should you confess your love first or make a date directly?
1. When chasing a girl, chat first and then ask out
When it comes to the relationship between men and women, offline is always better than online. The two of them have been chatting awkwardly online and have run out of topics. They can try to hang out together and see if they can alleviate the awkwardness and improve their relationship. But not the other way around. The two of them were uncomfortable meeting each other for a date, so chatting online would only make it even more awkward. If you can't advance a relationship offline, never expect to advance it online.
The usefulness of online chatting is firstly to introduce each other when we first meet, and secondly to make transition between two dates. If you can make an appointment to hang out, don't chat on your phone. No one in love wants to become a mobile phone pet.
Why is long-distance relationship difficult? Because we can't meet each other, we will lack a lot of emotional fluctuations. If two people quarrel, it can be resolved with a hug, but online you have to coax them for several days, and it may not be resolved. Eye contact, expression of expression, hormonal breath, slight touch of body. This is something you can't experience online chatting.
2. Don’t confess your feelings rashly when chasing a girl
Look back at your situation.
“I haven’t spoken a few words to my classmates for two years in college, and I haven’t added them on WeChat since then”
“How can my classmates speak if it takes so long to chat and confess first”
Here is a mistake that many people often make. When it comes to the question "Does she like me?", don't "feel the same" yourself. You have a crush on this girl, so you will focus more on her. But people may not necessarily focus on you.
You haven’t said a few words, and there’s a good chance that people don’t even remember who you are. They’re still worried about “how can my classmates speak after such a long time?”
Completely unnecessary. You have to let her get to know you first, don't just admire yourself here.
So, what to do?
First of all, find a time after class to say hello to the person in person, introduce who you are, and tell her that she thinks you are cute and wants to get to know you more deeply, so it is not convenient to add WeChat. After you add her to WeChat and chat online for a day or two, you can basically figure out what this girl thinks of you. If you have the opportunity, just go out to dinner and watch a movie with a three-piece suit. If there is no way, just say hello to the next one who will be better.
If you hold your phone and talk every day and don’t dare to ask out, this is a classic shark-arm behavior. The girl's patience is exhausted like this.
But, if you are not sure, I really don’t recommend you to take advantage of the situation. You can be ambiguous with her first, and it may not work out in the end. You will be busy for a long time and then you will be beaten. Just confess your love directly. Well, if you are rejected, then basically stop thinking about other girls in this class. After all, no girl is willing to admit that she is worse than other girls.
