Question: I have a graduate degree and my girlfriend has a college degree. We met through a blind date. At the beginning, I didn't think anything of it. I thought it would be fine as long as two people like each other. However, after being in contact for a long time, I realized that there are indeed many problems if there is a big gap in education. She's pretty good-looking, treats me well, and cooks for me, but when I talk to her about future plans, she becomes very irritable and unwilling to continue learning to improve herself. She just wants to watch TV dramas. Playing games, and I like to study in my free time. I am afraid that the gap between us will become wider and wider in the future. I would like to ask what impact the gap in education will have on marriage? Is it possible to get married if there is a big gap in education?
The impact of the educational gap on marriage
Answer:
In fact, according to your description, the problem between you and your girlfriend is not just a problem of educational gap. Do you think that the other party’s shortcomings are not limited to academic qualifications? You are saying that all aspects of the other party’s qualifications are not very satisfactory. It may be that the gap in academic qualifications is relatively large. Therefore, I think you should ask this question: “Can you Marry someone who is not ideal in all aspects but treats you very well and is already dependent on you? ”
Let’s talk first. Will I marry someone with a different academic background? This is definitely okay for me personally, because whether two people are suitable or comfortable with each other has nothing to do with their academic qualifications. Academic qualifications are just a guarantee given by the modern education system. Titles are used for social stratification and career guidance. Although people with higher academic qualifications may indeed have higher learning ability and broader knowledge, this does not mean that their character or ability will be outstanding. And when talking about marriage, When it comes to marriage, it seems that academic qualifications are not a hard requirement. I know of many examples of people with high academic qualifications but low emotional intelligence and poor conduct in life.
Let’s talk about whether you will marry someone who is not ideal in all aspects but is very good to you. This is really hard to say. I believe most people have heard a question, that is, would you rather go? Be with someone you love but doesn't love you back, or be with someone who loves you but you don't love you back. Many or even most people may directly choose the latter, but what I want to say is is this really okay? It is not easy for a person to love you, but if you don’t love him/her, then this affection It is also indifferent to you, unworthy, and even painful.
When you feel that a person is not ideal in all aspects, then you have to decide whether you can have feelings for this person. Question mark, if you really have sincere feelings for him/her, then I think it’s okay to get married, but if he/she is just nice to you, but you don’t like this person at all, then I think there’s really no need to make do with it. Isn’t it good to let others go and let yourself go?
