When a girlfriend has another suitor, a boy may be happy that he has discernment and that the girlfriend he has found can be liked by others; but in his heart, he may worry about whether his girlfriend will be pursued by another suitor. If you chase him away, you will feel anxious. This is when I find out that my girlfriend went out for dinner and a date with my suitor behind my back. Of course I will feel uncomfortable, but I may be reluctant to break up. So what should I do?
1. Reasons why my girlfriend dated my suitor behind my back
1. Maybe your girlfriend likes you very much, but due to your own reasons recently, you have ignored your girlfriend. Or you don't care so much anymore, for example, you are becoming more and more impatient, your tone of voice when answering the phone is not as gentle as before, and the look in her eyes is not as affectionate as before. . . . . Wait for some small details in life to make your girlfriend move that you no longer love her. She feels neglected, so she wants to use someone to chase her to attract your attention. She may deliberately let you find out that she is pursuing her. It's because she's angry with you and wants you to bow down first.
2. The relationship between you and your girlfriend has become dull, or your girlfriend feels that she doesn’t like you that much, but she She doesn’t want to hurt you or make you think too much, so she eats with her suitor without telling you, but she actually treats it as normal communication. In this case, you need to find time to talk to her, calmly, there is no need to break up, and don't feel let down. After all, emotional matters cannot be controlled and forced, just like a man.
3. Maybe your girlfriend is keeping a spare tire. She compares you with your suitor, and she will choose whichever one is more valuable. In this case, no matter what choice you make, you can't make a mistake. You can turn around and leave gracefully, or you can find a way to keep her, but "the spare tire is really hard. Sometimes, it is more important to be yourself."
4. Your girlfriend no longer loves you, or is frustrated with you, and is ready to break up with you. , when contacting other suitors, you may be looking for your next relationship. You can think carefully about the recent changes in your girlfriend and whether his attitude towards you has changed. For example, she used to be coquettish and unreasonable with you, but recently she has started to be "reasonable". If this is the case, you may have lost her forever.
2. How to deal with my girlfriend going on a date with my suitor behind my back
Normally, when a girl has a boyfriend, she will keep a distance from other boys, especially this boy. She is also a pursuer of her boyfriend, which in itself is prone to misunderstandings. The fact that the girlfriend even went on a date with her suitor despite knowing these circumstances speaks volumes in itself. And even after a girl falls in love with you, it actually doesn’t matter if she eats with friends of the opposite sex. There is nothing to hide about who she eats with. What she is hiding should be that she has a story. After all,Ask why you are hiding it.
In a relationship, both parties need to be loyal to each other. Once there are seeds of doubt and trust is destroyed, the relationship will Leaving cracks. Just like my girlfriend goes out for dinner and a date with my suitor behind my back, even if they really have nothing to do with each other, boys will still be suspicious in their hearts.
