The Spring Festival is coming soon, and all brothers will inevitably be arranged by the seventh aunt and the eighth aunt to go on blind dates again.
In fact, blind dates are not scary. More boys feel that during the blind date, they are afraid that they will not be able to grasp the situation well and it will lead to awkward chatting scenes.
Boys who have had experience can think about it, and those who have no experience can think about it. If two people look at each other, their eyes wide open, and they are so nervous that they can't say anything, they will instantly transform into a question-and-answer dialogue. Can this situation not be embarrassing?
Today we will talk about how we should treat a girl on a blind date for the first time. Make a very good first impression.
1. Take good care of your image
As the saying goes, never fight an unprepared battle. Before meeting a girl, we should at least prepare ourselves well.
Take a shower, keep your breath fresh, and shave yourself in front of the mirror. Wear clothes that fit and are clean, and style your hair according to the method taught by Tony.
No one is obligated to look at your sloppy appearance to see your excellent inside. Therefore, the formation of first impression depends on whether you are willing to put effort into this matter.
2. Respect between strangers
When two people meet for the first time, it is very necessary to greet each other. of. This will quickly bring the two people closer to each other, and allow both parties to have a transitional stage from stranger to familiarity. Your respect will make the girl feel not only a gentleman, but also a reflection of high emotional intelligence.
When two people who don’t know each other meet for the first time, it will inevitably lead to tension and embarrassment. Brothers who don’t know how to communicate can easily step on a trap and be passed by a girl. Drop!
Remember, you can’t be embarrassed and silent when you first meet, causing a scene like an iceberg, cold to the depths of the sea.
Examples of greetings:
① [Self-introduction] Hello, I am XXX. There was a traffic jam when I came here.
②【Compliments to girls】I'm glad to meet you. You are more elegant in person than in the photos.
③【Listen to the traffic conditions】How did you get here?
④【Take advantage of the weather】The weather is not bad today, but the temperature is a bit lower. Come and sit down quickly to warm up. .
3. Show sincerity and enhance understanding
Social psychologist Ruth Bult believes: Men and women Commitment to an intimate relationship is determined by factors such as satisfaction, substitutability, and investment. In other words: satisfaction - substitutability + amount of investment = commitment.
When we do something for someoneWhen more or more important resources are invested in an intimate relationship, a stronger commitment will be made to the intimate relationship, which means it will be less likely to leave the relationship.
Therefore, if we can say something that can reflect your sincerity for this blind date during the first blind date, and during the chat, if we can talk about some of the costs such as energy, time, etc. that the other party or you have paid, In fact, it means that you have invested resources and are sincere in this relationship, which will make the other party instantly trust you and feel that you respect her.
What are the chat topics?
Topics used to enhance understanding:
Interest categories: pets, horoscopes, entertainment, psychological tests, movies, TV series, food, travel
Some examples: Looking at your circle of friends, are you a Cancer? / I just watched Alluring Time, it’s so sweet and boring
Things to note:
Don’t talk about topics that girls are not interested in, such as games that only boys play, politics and military, or topics that are too professional. For example, if you are engaged in IT, it is not appropriate to talk about code with girls.
One of the most important skills in chatting is keyword chatting skills. Learn to grasp the keywords in the valuable replies given by girls, and then postpone and spread the topic.
