Soul question: Why do some people stop falling in love after talking about it? I believe many friends have encountered this situation, so I want to discuss it with everyone today. In fact, in my opinion, the reason why you no longer love each other after talking about it may be that the problem lies in your communication mode.
First let’s see if there are any of the following reasons in your communication:
1. No Good at expressing feelings with words
When you are dissatisfied or complaining about each other, you find it difficult to explain the problem concisely. Instead, you are messy, rambling, and moving from one topic to another. For example, originally I wanted to say that the other person went to bed without taking a shower, but instead, I started to criticize him for all his faults and settle old scores.
2. Not good at listening to each other
You are always eager to draw conclusions and express your own opinions, but you do not listen to your lover properly and check whether you truly understand the other person's point of view. mean.
For example, a boyfriend says to his girlfriend: Baby, I can’t go on our date today...
The girlfriend starts to get angry before the other party has finished saying: Why?! Me Is it so unimportant to you?!
3. Often treat the other party with negative emotions when talking
< p> You usually respond to your lover's complaints with belittling and sarcasm.This type of communication usually starts with one person’s criticism. For example, after the husband changes his shoes, he always fails to put them on the shoe rack.
At this time, the wife is not reacting to this matter, but rising to a personality attack - why are you so sloppy!
At this time, the husband's first reaction may be It's self-defense and counterattack - you have the energy to take care of this because you don't have a job! You have to rely on me to support everything, why should you take care of me!
These are small details in our lives, but they are really It truly reflects the problem to us. It is said that good communication can promote the growth of feelings. If there is a problem with the corresponding communication model, how can your relationship get better?
So, now Do you understand why some people talk but don't love each other? If there is anything unclear about communication, please feel free to chat privately for consultation.
